Quarrels and Squabbles Enliven a Marriage
One day in the street I ran into a good friend whom I had not seen for a long time. She was shopping with her fiancé for their wedding. In her arms were many fancy and gaudy things, among which I was particularly attracted by several small aluminum basins. I reckoned no fewer than four or five. My friend said with a smile, "These are a must for our new family, and they come in handy when you wash rice and vegetables or serve soup and other dishes. They are clear, bright and very presentable, aren't they?" With her head tilted to her sweetheart, she looked at him charmingly. In return, her towering husband-to-be gave her a tender and sweet smile.
As the merry couple disappeared out of my sight, I couldn't help wishing their attachment would last forever. This immediately reminded me of the glistening new basin I bought for my wedding. Then it was very new and bright but it is now rough, worn and dented. Fresh in my mind are the romance of dating, the strong attachment in the honeymoon, and the ensuing skirmishes such as complaints, accusations and squabbles. I remember how I, for the first time, dashed the basin onto the floor in a fit of rage.
As life is no fairy tale, marriage is by no means a bed of roses. Once you get married, romantic dating gives way to monotonous routine. Daily necessities take the place of loving words. The mystery and novelty soon worn off. Endless household chores as the burden of raising the kids will tire you out. Therefore, you begin to complain, to quarrel and some would like to divorce. As a result, many couples split up in the end. To dispel the myth of marriage, you are to realize that marriage is never the same as love. One can never expect to live in romance throughout their life.
After you wrangle and fight with your beloved, you may angrily scream at his receding figure, "Go to Hell! Get out of my sight for good!" However, when he fails to show up at the usual time, you begin to worry, "Is he drunk and lying flat in the road? Has he been knocked down by a car and rushed to a hospital? What has become of him?" Your anxiety may stir at any possibility. Staring at the clock, you find the second hand ticking so slowly and decide to look for your hubby when the hour hand climbs to a certain point. Suddenly, from among the miscellaneous footsteps you discern the steps familiar to you. You return to the bedroom hurriedly and lie in bed, pretending to be asleep. Then the door opens gently and you may hear him tiptoeing into the room. A moment later, you feel his hands softly tuck in the quilt around your neck and shoulder. Then you happily fall asleep with a smile on your rosy face.
What is love? If love exists, love is care and concern. Quarrels are no detriment. With love, you will overcome all the disputes. It is only in the alternate quarrelling and reconciling that you can learn to be tolerant and restrained. I still remember that once my beloved went sightseeing in western Hunan Province. When he came back, he told me that there is a Love Spring in the Zhangjiajie Nature Reserve. It is rumored that anyone who drinks the water there will enjoy conjugal love forever and remain devoted until the end of their lives. My husband often suffers from indigestion and easily gets a stomachache with a bit cold. He filled his stomach with a lot of the water though he had known better than to do so. Coming back, he was overjoyed, telling me that the spring water did taste great. His words left me in silence. Over years of marriage life, we have complained, quarreled, and many times angrily glowered at each other, neither willing to give in. It is true that we have a long way to go, and in the future, we may experience more skirmishes and squabbles. But for his bravery to drink the water and the best wishes he had, I never regret marrying him.
Though poles apart, two individuals may get tied to each other by destiny. For one reason or another, they get to know each other, fall in love and build a family. Be it heavenly or human, the arrangement is a welcome one. Otherwise how come you single your spouse out of the sea of handsome guys or pretty girls? So you should cherish this love bond and be happy about it. If you do, you will feel happy and contented, hence your gnawing anxiety after a row. A husband and wife may not always enjoy perfect harmony or eternal courtesy. It is only by quarrels and squabbles that a marriage can last.